Often at Open Doors Therapy, we are asked what we are interested in reading. Or what’s on our bookshelf when it comes to books about Autism. Sometimes, we are even asked what resources our clients have told us to look into or found helpful. We firmly believe that education and knowledge are essential to understanding and acceptance of Autism as a form of diversity. It’s a stepping stone in the journey of acceptance and building more awareness for Autism.
By looking for accurate information and resources, we can support individuals with Autism. This means becoming more neurodiversity-affirming and creating a path toward meaningful acceptance. That’s why this blog is dedicated to presenting you with some of our favorite must-read books about Autism for adults. We want you to have the opportunity to explore, learn, and expand your understanding of this unique form of diversity.
General Books About Autism
Unmasking Autism by Devon Price
An insightful book that leads you to rethink autism and understand how and why masking comes about in many autistic people. The book explores autistic burnout and the cost of masking for autistics. It provides an alternative to burnout by helping autistic people identify how to build their lives around their strengths, values, and needs. The book also highlights the importance of cultivating autistic relationships to support unmasking.
Devon Price also wrote another book called “Laziness Does Not Exist”. Although this book is not specific to autism, it is written by an autistic person and tends to resonate with our autistic clients. A quote from this book that we often share with our autistic therapy groups is: “When people run out of energy or motivation, there’s a good reason for it. Tired, burned-out people aren’t struggling with some shameful, evil inner laziness; rather, they’re struggling to survive in an overly demanding, workaholic culture that berates people for having basic needs. We don’t have to keep pushing ourselves to the brink, ignoring our body’s alarm bells, and punishing ourselves with self-recrimination. We don’t have to deny ourselves breaks. And, we don’t have to fear laziness. Laziness does not exist.”
A Field Guide to Earthlings: An Autistic/Asperger View of Neurotypical Behavior by Ian Ford
This book is written as if it was written by an alien anthropologist studying the patterns of the human species, specifically neurotypical people. Importantly, it can be very validating for a neurodivergent person who is often baffled by human behavior. Especially, if they find it unpredictable and hard to decode.
This book points out many of the behaviors and unspoken rules that neurotypical people naturally learn and take for granted as obvious. Which are not obvious to neurodivergent people. A bonus is at times the book can be humorous. The final chapter has some profound thoughts about what autism is and how to live an authentic life. And it recommends to “Get your confidence by being more autistic, not less; don’t run from yourself in an effort to become typical.”
I Am Autistic: A Workbook by Chanelle Moriah
Chanelle Moriah’s book on autism is a valuable resource for those seeking to expand their knowledge about autism and autistic people. Through practical advice, tools, and journaling activities, readers can gain a better understanding of living with autism. With over 80 topics covered, including stimming, sensory overload, and unmasking, the book offers insights from an autistic perspective, fostering self-awareness and promoting acceptance of autism. By delving into these topics, individuals can cultivate a deeper understanding of autism and its impact, fostering empathy and facilitating a more inclusive society.
But You Don’t Look Autistic At All by Bianca Toeps
In this book, the author writes about their lived experience as an autistic person with honesty, clarity, humility, and hard-earned confidence. It’s like hearing a real person speak their mind while maintaining a sense of humor. And I happen to love what Bianca has to say. The author describes some compelling theories of autism in an easily understandable way.
I also appreciate that the author writes about their autistic experience in a way that can be very validating for other autistic people. She has quotes like “To everyone who feels they have to pretend to be something they’re not and who is constantly afraid to step on people’s toes I’d like to give this piece of advice: find better friends. You deserve it.” Another cool aspect of the book is that the author gives tips to neurotypical folk so that they can be an ally of autistic people.
Connecting with the Autism Spectrum, How to Talk, How to Listen, and Why You Shouldn’t Call it High-Functioning by Casey “Remrov” Vormer
There are similarities between this book and Bianca Toeps’ book. It also provides a first-hand account of living a life through the lens of autism and aims to provide a guide for neurotypical people. He does this through personal experiences and expert knowledge. Vormer offers practical advice on effective communication strategies that can foster meaningful connections with autistic individuals. This way they have support to help them interact and socialize with autistic people. I think this book can be both validating and eye-opening for neurodivergent people and help build autism allies.
One significant aspect addressed in the book is the use of language and terminology when discussing autism. Vormer challenges the common labeling of “high-functioning” and provides compelling reasons why this term can be misleading and detrimental. By exploring alternative perspectives, readers gain a deeper appreciation for the diverse range of abilities and challenges within the autism spectrum.
Sincerely Your Autistic Child: What People on the Autism Spectrum Wish Their Parents Knew About Growing Up, Acceptance, and Identity Edited by Autistic Women and Nonbinary Network, Edited by Emily Paige Ballou, Sharon daVanport, and Morenike Giwa Onaiwu
Although this book was written for autism parents, I actually think it can be a healing book for autistic teens and adults to read. Many autistic people during childhood do not feel accepted and feel like their loved ones want them to mask to fit in. This often leads autistic people to feel like they are broken or flawed. This book offers a profound and intimate exploration of the lived experiences of individuals on the autism spectrum, giving them a platform to share their perspectives directly with parents and caregivers.
Each chapter is written by a different autistic person, and their voices string together a message about self-acceptance and self-love that can be cathartic for autistic people to hear. The book is made up of a collection of heartfelt letters, that provides a unique window into the inner world of autistic individuals, shedding light on their journey of growing up, seeking acceptance, and forming their identities. It delves into various aspects of autistic life, including sensory experiences, communication challenges, social interactions, self-advocacy, and embracing neurodiversity.
Divergent Mind: Thriving in a World That Wasn’t Designed for You by Jenara Nerenberg
This is a great book that not only delves into the experiences of individuals with autism but also offers profound insights into their unique perspectives. Nerenberg explores the strengths and challenges associated with autism but also aims to debunk misconceptions and highlight the immense potential within neurodiversity. She does all of this by sharing personal stories and scientific research.
Divergent Mind is very validating in the way it emphasizes the empowerment of individuals on the autism spectrum, for them to embrace their differences, and find their own paths to success and fulfillment. Nerenberg also advocates for society to recognize that autism is a form of diversity and should be recognized and appreciated. It helps to challenge societal norms and prompts readers to re-examine the way we think about and interact with autistic people.
Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate A User Guide to An Asperger Life by Cynthia Kim
This is a book that offers an in-depth exploration of the Asperger’s experience. Cynthia Kim draws from her personal experience as an individual with Asperger’s syndrome to provide a candid and introspective account of her life. It talks about various aspects of how her life has been affected by Asperger’s, offering valuable insights and practical advice.
Kim discusses the challenges faced by individuals on the autism spectrum, such as navigating social interactions, dealing with sensory sensitivities, and coping with the overwhelming demands of daily life. She also explores the strengths and unique perspectives that come with an Asperger’s diagnosis, shedding light on the different ways individuals with autism perceive and engage with the world.
Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students by Christine Fonseca
Reading this book will help you explore the experience of gifted students and the challenges they face along with highlighting their heightened emotional sensitivity, intensity, and complexity. Christine Fonseca explores the various aspects of emotional intensity and its impacts on self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being. She also discusses how gifted students may experience a range of intense emotions, such as anxiety, perfectionism, and existential concerns, which can significantly impact their daily lives and functioning.
Although the book does not specifically focus on autism, it offers valuable insights that can be beneficial when learning about autism. Many characteristics of emotional intensity in gifted individuals overlap with traits commonly associated with autism. These traits can be sensory sensitivities, social difficulties, and emotional regulation challenges. Understanding the emotional aspects of giftedness can provide a deeper understanding of the emotional experiences of individuals with autism.
Late Life Autism Diagnosis or Suspected Autism Books
I Think I Might Be Autistic: A Guide to Autism Spectrum Disorder Diagnosis and Self-Discovery for Adults by Cynthia Kim
“I Think I Might Be Autistic” is an easy and quick read that provides a basic and comprehensive overview of autism. It can also help bring clarity to individuals grappling with the question “Am I autistic?”. This book discusses how understanding your autism can be validating, but also help you make sense of your past. It also discusses how understanding your autism can alter your personal narrative in more positive and affirming ways.
An Adult with an Autism Diagnosis: A Guide for the Newly Diagnosed by Gillan Drew
“An Adult with an Autism Diagnosis” is written by Gillan Drew, who is an Autistic author. His book provides a basic introduction to autism with a DSM framework but describes some terminology that has been historically used around autism. It includes a helpful list of tips to reduce burnout and honor your wiring. It also includes chapters on some special topics, such as autism in the workplace and romantic relationships. This book also explores the process of obtaining a formal autism assessment and the next steps in terms of your evolving sense of self and autism disclosure.
Autism in Girls and Women Books
Women and Girls with Autism Spectrum Disorder Understanding Life Experiences from Early Childhood to Old Age by Sarah Hendrickx
This book by Sarah Hendrikx is a comprehensive book covering essential topics related to autism in girls and women. Which also spans from infancy to old age. It includes topics such as late-life diagnosis, education, gender and autism misconceptions, adult relationships, sexuality, pregnancy, parenting, health and well-being, employment, and aging with autism.
Spectrum Women Walking to the Beat of Autism Edited by Barb Cook and Dr. Michelle Garnett
The wonderful aspect of this book is that each chapter is written by a different author who identifies as an autistic woman. The authors are also incredible thinkers and autism advocates. This book starts differently by starting with the question, “Are you ready to know what it feels like to be an autistic woman?” It covers important topics ranging from finding your tribe, the intersection of gender and diversity, personal safety, emotion regulation, anxiety, relationships, executive function, mental wellness, and self-care.
Camouflage the Hidden Lives of Autistic Women by Sarah Bargiela
The unique aspect I love about this book is that it uses visuals to elucidate concepts about autism. This book is especially appealing to those autistic readers who are visual and spatial learners. It explores the concept of “camouflaging,” where individuals mask their autistic traits to fit into societal norms. It also covers the unique challenges faced by autistic women, including the impact of gender stereotypes and the need for better understanding and support. Even though this book is about autistic women, many of the concepts it covers can be related to all genders.
Aspergirls: Empowering Females with Asperger Syndrome by Rudy Simone
“Aspergirls” is a comprehensive and insightful book that allows you to explore the experiences of women and girls on the autism spectrum, specifically those with Asperger Syndrome. Unlike traditional autism literature that primarily focuses on males, this book addresses the unique challenges faced by females with Asperger Syndrome. This book is written by Rudy Simone, an author, and advocate who is herself on the spectrum and offers a wealth of personal experiences, research, and practical advice.
Autism in Heels by Jennifer Cook O’Toole
Written by Jennifer Cook O’Toole, an autistic woman who shares her personal journey and insights into autism. What sets this book apart is its focus on the experiences of autistic women. A group that has often been underrepresented and misunderstood in the autism community. In her book, she will help you explore a deeper understanding of the challenges, strengths, and unique perspectives of autistic individuals. She also shares her own struggles and triumphs. This offers a firsthand account of navigating a world that often fails to accommodate neurodivergent individuals.
Queer and Autism Books
Queerly Autistic: The Ultimate Guide for LGBTQIA+ Teens on the Spectrum by Erin Ekins
“Queerly Autistic” offers a unique perspective and addresses the specific challenges and experiences faced by queer individuals on the autism spectrum. It explores topics of figuring out your gender, sexuality, and autistic identities. But also dealing with bullying and bigotry, and the importance of finding LGBTQIA+ affirming spaces. It also helps to shed light on the challenges faced by this intersectional community. But also celebrates the strengths and unique perspectives that arise from their experiences.
The Autistic Trans Guide to Life by Yenn Purkis and Wenn Lawson
This book is an invaluable resource that explores the intersection of autism and transgender identity. This comprehensive guide offers practical advice, personal narratives, and reflection exercises. This is to help individuals navigate self-discovery, coming out, transitioning, relationships, mental health, and advocacy. There are several crucial topics discussed that are specific to this population. These topics include sensory issues, body changes, surgery, bathrooms, fertility, and reproduction, as well as legal ramifications.
By acknowledging the diverse experiences within the autism and transgender communities, the book provides an intersectional perspective. But also promotes self-acceptance, self-advocacy, and embracing authenticity. It offers valuable insights into the challenges faced by autistic transgender individuals. But also celebrates the strengths and unique perspectives they bring to the world.
Supporting Transgender Autistic Youth and Adults by Finn Gratton
This book written by Finn Gratton is a good read for trans-autistic people, and their families. It can also be beneficial for providers working with this population. The wisdom in this book stems from the author’s first-hand experience as a trans-autistic adult. But also from their professional experience. Gratton is a therapist who specializes in working with trans-autistic teens and adults. In addition to exploring the experience of being trans and autistic, this book explores mental health topics. These can include tpoics such as trauma, minority stress, attachment, health care issues, and crisis interventions. Another unique aspect of this book is that it also discusses navigating the cisgender and neurotypical world in different settings, such as school and work.
Interested in Autism Resources in Palo Alto, CA?
Knowledge is a way to empower yourself, and we want you to have all the options available that you need! Having the resources you need to learn more about autism can help you become more neurodiversity-affirming. And create an understanding environment for yourself and those around you. At Open Doors Therapy, we offer a range of services and resources that are tailored to the individual needs of neurodiverse individuals. If you’re interested in learning more about our team, our services, and which may be right for you, you can follow these steps to gain more information:
- Reach out to our autism therapy practice and schedule a free phone consultation.
- Learn more about our services and which may be best for you or your child
- Start learning more about autism, and get the resources you need to help increase your understanding of neurodiversity!
Other Services Offered with Open Doors Therapy
Our team understands you may be informed about autism but would like support for other areas of life. That’s why we also offer other services. To help you through the process of feeling validated and learning how to appreciate your differences. This is why our California-based practice is happy to offer a variety of services in support of your mental health. We also offer individual therapy, parent counseling, and group therapy. In addition, we also offer social skills groups. These include college students with autistic traits, young adults with autism, women who identify as neurodiverse, a mother’s group, and an online parent support group. Please feel free to visit our Autism Resources page for info and helpful resources. Learn more about our services by reaching out or visiting our blog today!
About Tasha Oswald Ph.D. and Her Team
Meet Dr. Tasha Oswald, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist (#30423) and the Founder and Director of Open Doors Therapy and Neurodiversity School. With over 15 years of experience in developmental and clinical psychology, cognitive neuroscience, and a passion for supporting neurodiverse individuals, Dr. Oswald leads a skilled team at Open Doors Therapy. Their compassionate therapy services aim to empower individuals on the autism spectrum and their families, fostering personal and professional growth. Dr. Oswald specializes in supporting autistic employees, helping them overcome imposter syndrome and thrive in their careers. With a commitment to providing the best possible care, Dr. Oswald and her team create a supportive environment. One where neurodiverse individuals can achieve their full potential.
