Planning a Date as an Autistic Adult
Option 1: Do an activity you and your partner both prefer
Option 2: Do an activity that your partner prefers
One thing to note: if you’re doing something you have little knowledge about, you likely won’t be great at it. And that is OK!
Remember, it’s not about competition or excellence. This is all about having fun and sharing a moment with your partner. Take it as an opportunity to try something new without any need for perfection. Many people with autism have perfectionist tendencies. If you do, try to be mindful of them. Push against this tendency and allow your creation to be, without forcing it to be perfect. This will allow you and your partner to enjoy the experience together! It will be freeing and fun. Come into this new situation with the intention to have fun and take a night off from perfection.
Date Night Ideas for Neurodiverse Adults in the Bay Area, According to Your Interests
Do a food tour or take a cooking class together,
If you’re wanting to be really extravagant, pay for a chef to come to your home and prepare a special meal.
For couples who love to travel:
Book a night away at a B&B,
Take a weekend trip somewhere new. You could find a great B&B in Napa Valley.
For nature lovers:
Choose an outdoor activity. For example, you could pack a picnic packed with your favorite gourmet foods and desserts.
Find where the natural beauty lies in your area, and go there!
Consider taking a day or weekend trip to visit the ocean, the Redwoods, or ski resorts.
For history buffs:
Go to a museum you haven’t been to yet.
For instance, in San Jose, you could visit the Egyptian museum!
For sports enthusiasts:
Go to a sporting event and support your favorite team.
- For example, you could get tickets to a Warriors game!
For a budget-conscious couple:
Visit Groupon and check out their deals on activities near you.
Still looking for ideas?
Google “Best 10 Date Night Ideas for Valentine’s 2020”
Support for Neurodiverse Adults
Social Skills Groups at Open Doors Therapy in the South Bay Area/Silicon Valley
Working Professionals Group:
Autistic Adult Group
Neurodiverse College Group
Autistic Women’s Group
Join a Social Skills Group for Neurodiverse Adults in Palo Alto, CA:
If you are a neurodiverse adult looking for autism resources, we have a group for you. Our social skills groups led by an autism therapist will give you useful tools to help you navigate challenging social situations, like dating! To join an autism support group at our counseling clinic in the South Bay Area, follow these three steps:
- Schedule a free 30-minute phone consultation using this link. This consultation will help us determine your individual needs.
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- Sign up to receive my newsletter for useful information about living with Autism.
Other Autism Services for Neurodiverse Adults at Open Doors Therapy
Our Palo Alto/Bay Area autism counseling clinic serves high functioning individuals who have autistic traits. This includes individuals who identify as having Asperger’s, high functioning autism, undiagnosed autism traits, etc. and their families. We are proud to offer a variety of autism services and autism resources including individual counseling for autistic teens and adults, parent counseling, and group therapy. Additionally, our autism therapists offer several different social skills groups for neurodiverse working professionals, college students with autistic traits, gifted youth & caregivers, autistic adults, women who identify as neurodiverse, a summer social skills college transition training program for youth transitioning to college, teens & caregivers, and a mothers group. Contact our Palo Alto autism therapy clinic to learn more and schedule a free consultation.
About the Author
Dr. Tasha Oswald is a trained developmental and clinical psychologist. She is the founder and director of Open Doors Therapy, a private practice in Palo Alto, near San Francisco, CA. She specializes in